One of the simplest and quickest ways to release joy into your consciousness is to do something for somebody else.

This is often called an act of selflessness. Defining selflessness is tricky. Some people will argue that selflessness does not exist because even when you do something without reward, you still gain the warm, fuzzy feeling of helping others.

That is why I prefer the term self-fullness, because it connotes an act done purely for the sake of the other person. You do it because you know it will help that person, and it is easy for you to do it. You do it from your fullness, meaning there is no sacrifice involved.

Most people will point to parenthood as the greatest example of selflessness. Parents generally prioritize the needs of their children ahead of their own needs and do so without an expectation of reward. However, if there is hidden resentment (which is often the case), selflessness can be detrimental. This is what can be seen in co-dependent families. In this case, selflessness does not bring joy but rather, relief. 

Self-fullness is an internal experience and cannot be judged truly by others. Only I know when I’m doing a thing for another without any strings. Others may see the act and say, ”Look what a wonderful person MG is” but if I do the act for an ulterior motive, I may be the only one who knows it.

And even though no one else knows my true motive, I will not feel joy.

Joy only comes from your extension of love in whatever form it takes: giving money or an object, or spending time with the person in a helpful way. It is compassion. It is empathy. There is no sacrifice.

Why exhibit Self-fullness?

You want to be self-full because you desire joy. It is the product of a mindset that see us all as connected by a greater force that is invisible but palpable. When you see someone in need and know you can be of service, you are drawn to help because joy is leading the way.  It is like a boomerang—the caring, the assistance, support or encouragement you give is simply a reflection of the belief in your mind that all beings deserve joy. And thus joy and peace are what you experience as a result.

A famous spiritual teacher, Ram Dass, who was a Harvard professor before he had a deep transformational experience, wrote a book called, How Can I Help? In it, he goes into all the reasons and benefits of Self-fullness.

When your mind is focused on the bigger picture, your relationship to others as you go through your day, you will find yourself calm and creative. In this state of mind, cortisol levels in the brain are reduced, which keeps the body in optimal capacity. Illness will have difficulty finding you.

Self-fullness also gives you an expanded perspective. By helping others, you put yourself in new situations and may find yourself out of your comfort zone. This broadens your mindset, changes how you think about things, and impacts how you perceive the world. It is a learning experience which leads to joy!

Developing Self-fullness

You can begin practicing self-fullness as soon as you understand its tremendous, life-changing nature. A great way to start is by performing a RAK (Random Act of Kindness) every day. You will be amazed at how flexible you can become when you consider others in your daily activities. Life becomes an exciting adventure just slowing down to hold the door open for someone, or really listening when somebody is talking to you.  There is an energy of gratitude that passes from them to you and back again. That is joy! 

Acknowledge your self-fullness and let joy be the gift you both give and receive.

Love and peace Always,
MarciaGrace

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