When we have contradictions in our minds, we have stress.

Pragmatists say we’re a body and a brain. That’s all we are, and that Spirit doesn’t exist. Spiritual people, on the other hand, say we are Spirit. We have a temporary body and brain. If you know me, you know which camp I inhabit!


I’ve heard several plausible arguments on both sides of this contradiction. I’m not here to convince anybody of anything but I’m bringing this up because contradictions produce stress, right? When we have contradictions in our minds, we have stress. There’s a tension going on. And of course, my job here is to help us eliminate or at least diminish our stress.

What is real?

Recently, I came across an article by Marilyn vos Savant in her column “Ask Marilyn”. She’s been writing this column for many years. In researching her, I discovered we’re practically the same age by a couple of weeks. Her real last name is Mach. Vos Savant is a nom de plume because Savant means genius. She is said to have the highest IQ ever recorded. She’s also an author, playwright, and a lovely person.

She was asked the question in her column about how sound travels in space. And her answer was, “It doesn’t”! which made me sit up, because I recalled all the sci-fi movies I’ve seen about battles in outer space and how noisy it was. She wrote, “What we call sound is the way our brains interpret a vibration that propagates in waves through a medium such as air until it reaches our ears. Without any medium to vibrate, no sound exists.”

No sound in space.

OK, there’s no air in space. So, if there’s no air in space, then there can’t be any sound because there’s nothing to vibrate in. So, according to this, the movies got it all wrong!

That brought up the question, “What is real?” Because for instance, if there is no sound in space, what does that mean?

Then I started to think about other things which led me to quantum mechanics, which really can’t state with certainty that sound of any kind, or even the world, is real or if physical things are really real.

The Copenhagen interpretation, one of the most well-known interpretations on this subject, states that the act of measurement, (we’re talking about scientists here), or observation, collapses the wave function determining the outcome of an event. So, what this means is that the physical world is only defined and real when it’s observed. When we see it, then it’s real. If we’re not looking, then it’s not real.

I recalled that philosophical conundrum about if a tree falls in the forest and there’s no one there to hear, does it make a sound? Uh-huh. Something else to think about! All these ideas I find fascinating.

A Course in Miracles

My spiritual discipline, A Course in Miracles, which I’ve been studying and teaching for the last 40-odd years, says that the physical world that we perceive with our senses, is not our reality because this world is a manifestation of the ego, and the ego is a false self-identity. We believe we’re physical beings walking around on a planet doing stuff. The Course teaches that the world we perceive through our senses is a dream or often uses the word illusion. Our true reality is in the oneness of Spirit. It is beyond our ego perception.

So, what’s real? It’s hard to know because everyone has a different perception of what the truth is, of what reality is, based on their own experiences. Contradictions abound as a result. And the thing about contradiction, as I said, is that it often creates stress. People get into fights because they disagree about what’s true, right? We see plenty of that these days!

Constant contradictions are a fact of life.

On the plus side, certain people find contradictions an interesting conversation topic because they enjoy a lively discussion that examines different ideas and thoughts and it’s fun to open the mind up to different possibilities. I love a good philosophical back-and-forth where we can come up with many ideas to mull over.

But what I want to bring up is the contradictions that we have in our minds. You know what I mean– it’s the tennis game where your conflicting thoughts are the ball that is going back and forth over the net and each time you hope it’ll be the last. You want to do this. But then there’s a question, “Well, should I do that? Maybe I shouldn’t. But on the other hand,….” It’s exhausting. This internal battle weakens your self-confidence and prevents you from focusing on the work that needs to be done.

Constant contradictions are a fact of life. That’s why I have a program that offers a solution to handle them. You do that by discovering your inner wisdom which is unique to you because what’s wise for you may not be wise for me. There’s no one-size-fits-all. It’s not a concrete thing that you can grab onto and say this is the truth. The truth is, in my estimation, dependent on the situation and the people involved. The answer is always with you, and you can find that answer by learning how to listen to your inner wisdom and expect an answer. The answer may not come immediately, and it may not come in the form you expect. You must trust that the answer will come when you truly need it.

This opens a whole new way of being in your life. Because now it’s about trust. And I love to talk about trust. It’s one of my favorite topics because we need to have trust in something greater than ourselves to effectuate this ability to listen to that inner wisdom. You must trust that it’s there, and until you do that, you’re not going to be able to hear an answer.

we need to have trust in something greater than ourselves

Don’t clean up the leaves?

Here’s an example of how it works for me: I’m debating if I should stay in and work on an article I’m writing or if I should go out and clean up the backyard. So, I put the question to my higher self and went about my business. A little while later I received a very clear answer that said it’s a beautiful day go outside and take care of the chickens but don’t clean up the leaves. Don’t clean up the leaves?

pollinators can hibernate in the leaves

Then I remembered that I had heard a discussion by an ecologist who said that we shouldn’t clean up our leaves in the fall because when we do, we take away the hiding places of the various creatures that live in the debris and overwinter, emerging in the spring to do their thing. I’m talking about the pollinators who are essential to the environment. The pollinators can hibernate in the leaves that fall on the ground that Mother Nature put there for them.

When you rake up your lawn, you are taking away a home for those pollinators that are so important to our food supply. 

I will let the leaves lie in my backyard because preserving nature is more important to me than having a pristine lawn.

When you rake up your lawn, you are taking away a home for those pollinators that are so important to our food supply.  I will let the leaves lie in my backyard because preserving nature is more important to me than having a pristine lawn.

By listening to my inner wisdom, I removed the conflict and the contradictions in my mind about what to do with my lawn. And I accomplish two things: I do my little part to help the environment and I remove the stress of not knowing what to do!

Remember, everything begins with a thought so watch those thoughts and get rid of the ones that are causing you hurt.

Peace and Love Always,

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